I've gone to bars and clubs A LOT in the past years. I've also coached several clients that have needed dating help. This is a list of attraction theory tips that guys make when they're talking to women. Remember that attraction is based on how we act rather much more than how we look or what we say. Most communication is non-verbal. Making these mistakes is like kryptonite to your game, and I highly recommend working consciously on stopping yourself from doing the following things:
Stop using little words like "hmm" and "umm". This is usually caused because of anxiousness. Most people use these little words because they think that the other person is going to interrupt them. That insecurity is highly unattractive to any woman. Pause instead of using those hums.
Speaking too quickly. This relates to the above point. Some guys are afraid of losing someone's attention. They think that if they talk too slow the other person will stop listening to them, so they try to get it all out at once. Avoid this at all costs.
Walking too fast. If you're a sex-worthy guy who has everything going for him, you would not be rushing to get anywhere. Your walk would be slow and meaningful. Think of the way a true alpha male would walk.
Slouching. This is a killer. You need to be comfortable when you stand, so standing perfectly upright is not good either. However, slouching is communicating a lack of confidence to anyone who is around you. According to any attraction theory slouching is to be avoided at all times.
Maintaining strong eye contact is crucial for any attraction theory. This is very important. In fact, I build most of my attraction and dominance by using this technique. If you look down at the floor when someone is talking to you, you automatically sub-communicate that they are more dominant than you are. If a girl is more dominant than you, her attraction will fall greatly. Don't ALWAYS stare at her eyes, but make sure to do so for about 70% of the time when you're speaking.
Giving your attention away. If someone calls for you, react in a slow and relaxed manner. Don't be too quick to give them your undivided attention. Think of yourself as a high value person that isn't there simply to serve others. This embodies the alpha male attitude that is great for attracting women.
A great resource on becoming an alpha male is John Alexander's book. Read my review for it here: Alpha Male.
Being scared of physical contact. Sex-worthy guys have no problem initiating and maintaining physical contact. You need to get comfortable about touching women as well. Don't make it awkward and forced; concentrate on having a more natural, smooth approach. Read up more articles about attraction theory and dating advice at Best Dating Manual.
These attraction theory tips are a must do for anyone that wants to succeed with beautiful women. Simply put, if you see yourself doing them, you need to stop these habits because they are sub-communicating a crazy amount of negative information about you to women.
Vince D is a dating coach based out of Toronto, Canada.
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Monday, 16 November 2009
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